Our Aspergers Teenage Boy

Mom reports: Tommy has declared that he WILL NOT do chores on the weekend because that is HIS time. During the week he’s too tired to do anything around the house. Tommy won’t carry the basket of clean laundry upstairs for me to fold because laundry is not his job. Tommy won’t even pick up the garbage or dirty clothes off his floor because “It’s his room and he doesn’t care what it looks like.” I asked Tommy when it’s my turn to have relax or have fun and he informed me that I’m an adult and I’m not supposed to have fun. I’m supposed to clean, grocery shop and do laundry. All of this the day after Tommy gets to spend 24 hours being entertained by his grandparents and then go out to play D&D for several hours with his father (while I stayed home and did laundry).